Final Reflection

Hopefully, I've gotten a really cool thing to do next fall from this class - whether it's my group's project or someone else's.

But if that doesn't work out, I'll still be more than satisfied with this course.

First of all, you guys are awesome. I came from a small school where the varsity athletes were the theater kids and the kids who won the science fair and the artists and everything else at once. When I got here, I wanted to be on the lacrosse team, which I knew would take all of my free time, so I didn't really look into doing anything else. After I didn't make the team, I didn't do anything ever. Like at all. I went from juggling more activities than I can count in high school to doing nothing here. It was a very boring first quarter. Then I met you guys! You are all so passionate about so many things, and you inspired me to be get involved again. I haven't spent time with all of you individually, but the collective attitude in the class has steered me toward a better life, or at least a more fulfilling college experience. So thanks for that. I'm so glad to have met and learned from you guys.

This course made me really reflect on myself. Starting from the beginning with the MBTI test and continuing through values and the weekly blog posts, I've learned as much from myself as I have from the class and my classmates. I realize that sounds cocky, but I think it's incredibly important, especially in the context of leadership, where you have to know how to lead yourself to be able to lead others. I won't stop valuing the time and space I got for introspection any time soon. This class sat us all down and showed us that we have our own power, and that we deserve to take ourselves seriously.

Of course, it also taught me not to take myself too seriously. As a class, we expertly managed to have very serious discussions while still keeping a fun, relaxed mood to the class. Even when the topics got heavy, we still managed to make our time enjoyable. I think I was put on this world to bring joy to everything I do. However, those things don't often lend themselves to being fun, so bringing joy can be difficult to do and is usually difficult to do correctly. This class danced on that balance line from day one, and I think we managed to end up on the right side most of the time.

Santa Clara sets itself apart from many other universities by striving to educate our whole selves. ELP remembered that we are just people, but it still pushed our limits to redefine that human balance. If everyone took a class like this, I think the world would look a little different.

This class gave us a glimpse of our potential in this life. Go forth and set the world on fire.

Technical difficulties

I was an idiot and couldn't figure out how to get into my blog for the last few weeks. I've finally managed to post, and I hope y'all still take the time to look over what I have to say.

Tuckman's Stages of Group Development

Clip 1 – Coach Carter – Norming

The team works to a common goal. Players have to give up what they might want to support each other and the team as a whole.

Clip 2 – Aladdin – Adjourning

I want to be mad at Casey for spoiling Aladdin for me, but I think it might be my own fault for going 19 years without ever seeing it. Anyway, this clip shows adjourning because the group members have reached their goal and part ways.

Clip 3 – Remember The Titans – Storming

This clip shows the competition, tension, and lack of cooperation within the team, representing the storming stage.

Clip 4 – Finding Nemo – Performing

Finally, a movie I’ve seen. But to be fair, I’ve seen it enough times to make up for all the others I haven’t seen. The fish pull together finally accomplish what they’ve been working at for the better part of the movie: getting Nemo back into the ocean. This clip is an especially interesting example because the group has to spring into action quickly without a plan.

So what’s left? The first stage, forming.

This clip shows the formation of Jack’s new crew in Pirates of the Caribbean. While we haven’t learned much about them yet, we know that everyone on the deck has chosen to be there and agreed to be a part of whatever Jack and Will are setting out to accomplish. This clip isn’t quite a perfect example of forming, but I chose it because the crew goes through the full five stages of development over the course of the movie, and we can see the storming beginning to take place at the end this snippet.

Words are Hard: Communication

Communicating is tricky. It’s so hard, you guys. Everyone’s minds are like big bowls of soupy thoughts floating around, and no matter how carefully you pick your words, you can never know what part of that soupy mess they’re going to stick to.

People will always interpret what you say based on where they are in their lives and their state of mind, so how can get our message across as well as possible?

Well first of all, I think the crucial first step is to embrace that we cannot be perfect. Something will always be lost in the transfer of information, and we have to be okay with that. In fact, we can use it to our advantage, as everyone may take away a slightly different message and, in turn, bring variant, diverse ideas back to the group.

I don’t see that many differences between communication with an individual and a group. Obviously, they are different beasts, but the basic principles hold true to both situations.

1. Articulating

This concept is one of the simpler ones but also one of the harder ones for me to accomplish. I find that my brain moves so quickly when I’m trying to problem solve that by the time the thoughts get to my mouth, my mind has already moved on. This problem can interfere with my communication, but it has also taught me to slow down, breathe, and pick my words carefully. To be fair, I usually just keep rambling full speed and hope the people I’m with will stay on board, but sometimes, when I really need to communicate effectively, I’ll have to slow it down. The idea is easy, though: if you want someone to understand what you’re thinking, choose the words that best explain your thought. As I said, don’t expect it to come across perfectly, but this is certainly the area where you can get the closest.

2. Confidence

Be confident in yourself and in your message. If you don’t believe that you and what you have to say are both important, neither will anyone else. In practice, this often means speaking in a slow, controlled manner, not going back on things you’ve just said, sounding like you’re not just coming up with something on the spot, and keeping all your nervous energy controlled (e.g. dancing feet, nervous hands, ums and uhs, etc.). Confidence is more important in situations like presentations or persuasions, but really it’s just important to prove that you’re speaking for a purpose beyond just the sake of talking. Stand up and own your message.

3. Relating

While it is important to seem on top of it and polished, it is also important to be relatable. This idea is sort of the yin to confidence’s yang. You certainly need both at all times, but they are opposite factors, and you need to understand the situation to figure out which one should hold more weight. For example, when chatting with friends, it is usually more important to be relatable than confident, but confidence is still crucial. I try to relate to my audience by using everyday, casual terms (how often do I say “you guys,” you guys?) in conjunction with more carefully constructed sentences.

4. Listening

We often use “communicating” and “talking”/”sharing” kind of interchangeably. However, a critical part of communication is keeping it two-sided. Again, this differs depending on the context (taking questions in a presentation, being sure to hear others’ ideas in a group project, or just listening to details about your friends’ days), but the idea holds true no matter the situation. Communication is about more than just putting your thoughts into the world. It’s about effectively sharing your ideas with others’ and eliminating as many barriers between your minds as possible. If no one ever listened, we would never have any reason to speak in the first place. I am definitely a loud, chatty, person, so I sometimes forget when it’s time to just shut up and listen, but it is incredibly important that we all remember that communication is a give and take.

5. Evaluating

Easily the most important part of communication is evaluating. You must first evaluate your audience and the context to figure out how best to communicate. After that, effective communication comes from frequent evaluating and reevaluating and making the appropriate changes. There’s nothing more frustrating than trying to understand people who can only seem to phrase their message in one way. If you notice that people look confused or uncomfortable, it is absolutely crucial to address the problem and try another approach. Similarly, if what you have to say is well-received, use that knowledge to boost your confidence and keep up the good work.

I Believe in the Power of Nature

When I’m two thirds of the way through a long Wednesday, feeling myself go crazy but with no time for a nap, I often give myself just one minute. I close my eyes, and for one perfect minute I am lying on my back in Forest Park, looking up at the cracked fragments of sky through the huge, protective canopy of Douglas Fir trees. Of course after those 60 seconds, I have to come back to this realm of existence, but that quick taste of nature is enough to keep me going. It’s nothing like the real thing, but it gets me through the week.

I have never been able to fully subscribe to any ideas of religion. Sure, I appreciate the teachings and lessons, but I have never been able to relate to ancient stories of prophets or gotten any sort of relief from spending time in churches.

I don’t know what it means to be religious, but I have been able to experience the profound, overwhelming, all-encompassing feeling of belonging I imagine spirituality provides. It happens away from other people, in my own place of worship, my own church.

Maybe I’m like an animal in a cage who just needs to touch solid ground once in a while. Or maybe my lungs need a chance to breathe crisp, clean air. Perhaps I just need to have all my senses stimulated to full capacity to feel alive. Whatever the reason may be, being outside, feeling fully connected to this Earth I live on, is my own personal enlightenment.

I believe in making the time to experience this crazy wonderful place we get the honor of living in. While bee stings and thorn scratches can be deterring, I assure you that pain is only temporary. All wounds in time will heal. The complete, fulfilling, incredible feeling of belonging to more than just a body, being tied down to nothing but the very Earth I am made of, however, will never fade.